Are We Compatible?
“Are we compatible?” is a common question I hear when couples start counseling.
The unspoken alternative is, Or should we call it quits?
I find this question of compatibility interesting. Compatible based on what?
Your birth signs? Personality inventories? My opinion?
None of these options are reliably backed by research.
What Do You Have To Gain?
By experiencing healing with your person (who has a special way of uprooting your childhood wounds) you heal your past, your present, your future, and your children’s future. Once you deal with the old patterns and create new ones, you’ll no longer be passing on that which hurt the two of you.
I stand by what I said at the beginning. “What do I have to lose” is the wrong question. Start asking yourselves, “What do we have to gain?”
Discernment Counseling Does What Now?
“I’m worried about making such an important decision in just 5 short sessions!” is a comment I often hear when people ask about Divorce Discernment.
They’re even further shocked when I tell them most of my clients have made a confident decision about their relationship by session 3 or 4.
Let me explain.